Raising great kids in a troubled world (1)

If you’re a parent, do you ever wish for a parenting do-over—a second chance to raise your kids? With hindsight and insight, you think you would do it right next time! Parenting is both rewarding and guilt-inducing. It’s rewarding because we love our children and they bring us joy. It’s guilt-inducing because we blame ourselves for their shortcomings and misfortunes. ‘Where did I go wrong as a parent?’ There is no perfect parent, and there is no universal blueprint because every child is born unique.

Psychologists have said our children were born with a ‘blank slate’, waiting for us to write life instructions on them. Not so! Babies are miniature people, ‘born in sin and formed in iniquity’ (see Psalm 51:5). They are given to us to figure out as we try to mould them spiritually, morally, socially, and intellectually. By age seven, they have learned about 75% of everything they will ever know. But although there is no one-size-fits-all formula for success, there are God-given principles that work whether you’re a new parent or a grandparent, or someone who works with children. ‘Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.’ (Proverbs 22:6 NKJV)

Notice some keywords here. ‘Train’, which implies imparting information in a consistent, understandable way. Toddlers learn better with pictures. Older kids need us to use contemporary language. If they don’t ‘get it’, we probably didn’t teach it well enough! ‘Child’ means old enough to understand. ‘In the way he should go’ implies knowing their personality and abilities and tailoring your training to fit them. When God’s principles fit the child’s unique characteristics, they’re more likely to adopt and follow them.